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Why People Give Me Advice at the Gym—Even When I’m 205 lbs with Abs

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Why People Give Me Advice at the Gym—Even When I’m 205 lbs with Abs

By Jon Stone | Iron Resilience

You ever notice how the most out-of-shape guys are the first to dish out training and diet advice?

You’re mid-set, headphones in, sweat dripping, muscles pumped. You’re 205 pounds with abs. Disciplined. Dialed in. Focused. And here comes some guy with a soft belly and soft mind telling you what he thinks you should be doing.

Why does this happen?

Because discipline exposes weakness.

Most people don’t want to get better—they want to feel better about not getting better. When they see someone like you—no shortcuts, no excuses, no fads—your results remind them of what they’ve been avoiding: pain, effort, structure, consistency.

So they project.
They advise.
They critique.
They poke holes in your routine, your diet, your methods—not because they want to help, but because they need to protect their ego.

It’s not about you.
It’s about them.

You’re a walking contradiction to their excuses.

You didn’t crash diet or hop on some influencer’s plan. You carved it out over years. You eat steak and eggs while they chase macro-balanced smoothies. You train like a masochist while they scroll through mobility reels. You walk 26,000 steps a day and lift like it matters. You live it.

And that terrifies people who only talk about it.

When you walk into a gym with purpose, the room shifts. People notice. Not just the results—but the energy. The no-bullshit presence. The eyes that say: I came here to suffer. That level of intensity reveals the frauds. It makes them uncomfortable.

So they try to shrink you back down.
With words.
With “tips.”
With passive-aggressive comments.

Let them.

You’re not here to be liked.
You’re here to be forged.

This is Iron Resilience.
Not plastic approval.
Not rubber-band advice.
Iron. Unbending. Unshaken.

And when someone smaller, softer, or lazier comes up to give you “advice,” just remember:
You’ve already won.
They just haven’t figured it out yet.

Why You Shouldn’t Take Fitness Advice from Obese People

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Why You Shouldn’t Take Fitness Advice from Obese People

by Jon Stone | Iron Resilience

We live in strange times. Overweight people hand out diet tips to shredded lifters. Obese keyboard warriors play coach to men with abs, grit, and results. People who haven’t seen their jawline in years crown themselves “fitness experts.”

Here’s the hard truth:
If you’re healthy, disciplined, or already walking the walk—you don’t owe these people your attention.

The Body Doesn’t Lie

You wouldn’t take money advice from someone broke. You wouldn’t learn mental toughness from someone who gave up.

So why take health advice from someone who doesn’t follow their own?

Words are cheap. Results are real.
You can talk about macros and workouts all day—but if you’re not living it, you’re not qualified to teach it. Plain and simple.

In this world, the only thing that earns respect is proof. Not opinions, not intentions. Your body is the evidence. Your routine is the resume. You either show up or you don’t.

Why Do Obese People Give Fitness Advice?

1. Ego Protection

Giving advice helps them feel involved in the fitness world without doing the hard part. It’s roleplay. Makes the ego feel safe while the body stays soft.

2. Fantasy Coaching

They live online, watching YouTube and reading Reddit—thinking that makes them a coach. But knowing theory and living it are two different things.

3. Backwards Culture

We flipped the script. Now, telling someone to earn respect through discipline is called toxic, and making excuses is called brave. That’s not strength. That’s cowardice dressed as kindness.

Are There Exceptions?

Sure—but don’t get it twisted.

Respect the message, but always verify the messenger.
If someone’s not applying the advice and not getting results, why would you listen? Especially if you’re already healthier than them?

The body doesn’t lie. Results are the only credential that matters.

Backed by Science: Not Just Opinion

Here’s what the research says:

  • Appearance Affects Credibility:
    People trust diet advice more from professionals who look fit.
    Source: The Guardian
  • Many Obese People Misjudge Their Health:
    Almost half of overweight women think they’re in “good health” despite the risks.
    Study Link
  • Knowing Isn’t Doing:
    Just because someone knows they’re overweight doesn’t mean they’re doing anything about it.
    Study Link
  • People Follow Advice When It Matches the Messenger:
    Patients take advice more seriously when it comes from someone who actually lives it.
    Study Link
  • Bias Toward Fit Coaches Isn’t Just Prejudice—It’s Pattern Recognition:
    Obese people are seen as lacking discipline for a reason—it’s often true.
    Study Link

Final Word

Look—this isn’t about shaming. It’s about standards.

You don’t need to take advice from someone whose results don’t back it up. Respect the grind. Ignore the noise.

And remember:

  • Your body is your proof.
  • Your output is your voice.
  • Lead by example—stay lean, stay locked in, stay unshakable.

— Jon Stone
Iron Resilience

Why I Chose Keto—and Why Sugar Addicts Hate That

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Why I Chose Keto—and Why Sugar Addicts Hate That

I’m not an elite endurance athlete, but I walk 17–20 miles daily and train 45–75 minutes a day. Before eliminating processed carbs and sugars, I struggled with hypoglycemia, mood swings, and energy crashes. Transitioning to a ketogenic diet was transformative for me.

Plenty of serious endurance athletes thrive on low-carb and keto approaches. Ultra-endurance runner Zach Bitter broke the 100-mile world record on a ketogenic diet. Elite Ironman triathletes like Dr. Dan Plews use low-carb strategies to optimize fat metabolism and endurance. It’s not just about performance—it’s about longevity, hormone stability, and mental clarity.

Sugar Is Not Fuel. It’s a Metabolic Wrecking Ball.

Let’s be real: processed sugar isn’t fuel—it’s biochemical sabotage. According to Dr. Robert Lustig at UCSF, added sugar (especially in liquid form like soda and energy drinks) is “toxic,” contributing to insulin resistance, obesity, and non-alcoholic fatty liver disease. [UCSF Source]

A 2023 BMJ meta-review found strong evidence linking sugar intake to increased risks of type 2 diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and depression. [BMJ Review, 2023]

Sugary Drinks: Liquid Fat Storage

Drinking calories is one of the fastest ways to ruin metabolic health. Sugary drinks like soda, “sports drinks,” and sweetened teas bypass satiety signals and spike insulin violently. Harvard researchers found that people who consume sugary beverages daily have a 26% higher risk of developing type 2 diabetes. [Harvard School of Public Health]

White Bread and Sugary Cereals: Modern Man’s Junk Fuel

White bread and cereals are marketed as staples but are actually ultra-processed, insulin-spiking garbage. Stripped of fiber, minerals, and protein, they act just like sugar in the bloodstream. A study in Diabetes Care showed that high glycemic foods like white bread increase insulin resistance and inflammation. [Diabetes Care, 2002]

Cereals marketed to children contain more sugar per serving than cookies. The Environmental Working Group found that some “healthy” cereals are over 50% sugar by weight. [EWG Report, 2014]

Weston A. Price Warned Us Nearly 100 Years Ago

In his foundational work Nutrition and Physical Degeneration, Dr. Weston A. Price documented how traditional, ancestral diets built strong bodies and minds—while refined sugar and white flour triggered rapid physical decay. He observed widespread dental deformities, bone narrowing, and behavioral issues appearing within a single generation when indigenous tribes switched to white bread, jam, canned goods, and sugar. [Weston A. Price Foundation]

The modern diet is not built for strength—it’s built for profit. It hijacks your dopamine, spikes your insulin, weakens your bones, and burns out your endocrine system. That’s the truth they don’t want you to hear.

The Keto Difference

If you burn 6,000 calories a day, sure—maybe you can get away with sugar and lard. But for the average guy trying to lose fat, build muscle, and protect his testosterone? High-carb diets are a hormonal trap. I lived it. I crashed hard on a grain-based diet. I leveled up on keto.

I’m not here to argue. I’m here to live. Want more? Read the work. Follow the mindset. Or don’t. I really don’t care either way.


Jon Stone
Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

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Shredded Over Size: The Iron Resilience Standard

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Shredded Over Size: The Iron Resilience Standard

By Jon Stone
Founder of ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

There’s a weird thing that happens when you get lean.

You drop 50 or more pounds of fat, veins start showing up, your jawline comes back, and your pants go from XL to medium. And yet, someone still points at a dude with a beer gut and says ‘he’s stronger than you’.

It’s not hate. It’s just the mindset out there. Big equals strong to most people. Even if that guy’s out of breath walking to the fridge.

The Powerlifter Bubble

Some guys live in this world where lifting is everything. Westside, chalk, five plates, bar bends, and chicken wings after the gym. They call it powerbuilding. They say shredded guys are weak. They love to joke about abs being ‘earned in the kitchen but lost in the squat rack.’

Alright, fair. They lift heavy. But lifting isn’t the same thing as building a body. And most of the time, they’re hiding behind strength numbers so they can keep eating garbage and call it ‘fuel.’

Not all of them, sure. But enough.

Two Different Roads

Let’s break it down. There are two types of lifters.

One trains for discipline, shape, performance, and confidence. He looks like he was carved out of stone.

The other trains to get strong and eat a lot. He’s proud of his lifts but hasn’t seen his jaw since high school.

Both work hard. Only one lives hard.

Why Size Matters to Some Women More Than Leanness

Here’s an important detail that often gets overlooked: many women, especially those raised around big, strong, stocky men—like construction workers, tradesmen, or heavy laborers—actually find bigger, more solid guys more attractive. They see size and bulk as real strength, not just muscle definition.

For them, an 18-inch “fatcep” might feel stronger and more impressive than a 16.5-inch shredded bicep. It’s what they grew up around. Even women who carry extra weight themselves tend to prefer partners who look solid and powerful over lean and shredded.

Skinnyfat guys usually get lost in the middle—neither lean nor truly strong-looking—and that often leaves them invisible in this dynamic.

The Shredded Aesthetic Protocol

Calories: around 2000 a day
Macros: 250g protein, 120-140g fat, under 20g carbs
Meals: OMAD (one meal a day) on work days, two meals on rest days
Style: Ketogenic, fasted training, high volume, dry and shredded

Sample Meals

Workday OMAD:
– 8 oz ribeye
– 3 eggs fried in butter
– Spinach and flaxseed
– Keto chai with almond milk

Rest day meals:
Meal 1: Greek yogurt, whey, almond butter
Meal 2: Bacon, eggs, avocado, sardines

Training: Push Pull Legs – 6 days per week

Day 1 – Push:
Incline DB Press 4×10
DB Shoulder Press 4×12
Lateral Raises 4×20
Dips 3 sets to failure
Overhead Triceps Extensions 3×15

Day 2 – Pull:
Pullups 4×8
Barbell Rows 4×10
Face Pulls 3×20
EZ Bar Curl 4×12
Hammer Curls 3×10

Day 3 – Legs:
Front Squat 4×8
Romanian Deadlift 4×10
Walking Lunges 3×15
Hamstring Curls 3×20
Calf Raises 4×20

Days 4-6: Repeat with variation
Add incline bench, Arnold press, rack pulls, hack squats etc.

Cardio: 45-60 minutes fasted walking daily
Optional: 2x per week HIIT (20 mins)

The Dirty Bulk Big Boy Setup

He’s not lazy. He’s in the gym. He moves weight. But he also eats like he’s bulking year-round. And yeah, he’s strong. But he’s tired all the time. Says cardio kills gains. And the only lines he has are in his forehead.

Calories: 3500 to 4000
Macros: 220g protein, 250-300g fat, under 20g carbs
Meals: 6 to 8 meals a day
Style: Dirty keto, strongman fuel, always eating

Sample Meals

Meal 1: 4 eggs, cheese, bacon, sausage, butter coffee
Meal 2: Ground beef, margarine, cheddar, bell peppers
Meal 3: Whey shake with almond butter
Meal 4: Chicken thighs, mayo, broccoli with melted cheese
Snacks: Hot dogs, pork rinds, cottage cheese, keto pudding

Training: 4-Day Westside Split

Day 1 – Upper Max Effort:
Barbell Bench 5×5
Weighted Dips 4×10
DB Rows 4×10
Seated Overhead Press 3×10
Rope Extensions 3×15

Day 2 – Lower Max Effort:
Deadlifts 5×3
Box Squats 4×6
Step-Ups 3×10
Hamstring Curls 3×15
Calf Raises 4×20

Day 3 – Upper Speed:
Speed Bench 8×3
Chin-Ups 4×10
Incline DB Press 3×12
Lateral Raises 4×20
Close-Grip Press 3×10

Day 4 – Lower Speed:
Speed Squats 8×2
Power Cleans 3×5
RDLs 4×10
Glute Ham Raises 3×8
Tibialis Raises 3×20

Cardio: 15k steps minimum on active days

What Do You Want to Be?

You can be big. You can be strong. You can even be both. But if you’re not shredded, you’re not finished.

You don’t have to do it like everyone else. But if you want the body, the clarity, and the power that doesn’t fade when the barbell is gone, you’ve got to take the harder road.

Get lean. Get dry. Get real.

That’s Iron Resilience.

Jon Stone
Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iron.resilience
Website: https://ironresilience.net

My Daily Rant for Today: Johnny Fatndumb, Oofy Doofy & the Small Dick Energy Hustlers

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My Daily Rant for Today: Johnny Fatndumb, Oofy Doofy & the Small Dick Energy Hustlers

You ever just wake up, check your feed, and immediately want to throw your phone in the toilet? That’s been me lately. Everyone’s trying to look like they’re on a magazine cover but acting like they live in a daycare. It’s a clown show out here.

Hustle Culture Ain’t the Problem. You Are.

Most of these dudes don’t even believe in what they’re doing. They’re just copying whatever grindset reel got the most likes last week. They’re burned out already because they never stood for anything. If you’re doing it for likes, followers, validation, or fake alpha points, you’re not gonna last. You’re a Johnny Fatndumb hustling backwards.

Grind culture isn’t toxic. You are. You’re toxic to yourself when you lie every day and pretend that filming your coffee and morning journal is gonna build a legacy. That’s not hustle. That’s cope. Real hustle is lonely, boring, and done in silence. Not for the explore page.

The Gym Ain’t Your Tinder Profile

Half the guys in the gym are training for women or TikTok. Not strength. Not aesthetics. Not self-respect. They’re flexing in mirrors like they just conquered Mount Olympus, but can’t even do a clean pull-up. Bro, your entire upper body is water weight and a half scoop of pre.

And stop posting shirtless pics when you look like a garbage bag with arms. I’m sorry, but 20 inch fatceps covered in stretch marks aren’t impressive. That’s not hypertrophy. That’s mashed potatoes in a trash bag in the summer sun. I don’t care if you think it’s ‘progress.’ You’re not shredded. You’re sweaty and sad.

Then there’s the bloated, inflamed, red-skinned tren bros. Acne everywhere, faces like tomatoes, necks like sausages. And they act like they’re gods. Lighting, angles, fake natty claims… you’re not fooling anyone except the 16-year-olds who think 3 grams of gear is a personality.

No One Wants to See Your Mantits

Everyone’s just naked now. Dudes built like soggy bread just dropping their pants online like they’re stepping on stage. Bro, put your shirt back on. This isn’t Mr Olympia, it’s Instagram. Save the thirst traps for when you actually look like you train.

Why Are You Even Doing This?

If you’re doing this for clout, just quit now. If you’re only in the game for likes or women or cheap dopamine hits, you’re gonna burn out. You’re gonna quit. Because you never had a reason deeper than your ego.

You do this because it builds you. You do it because it hardens your mind, carves your body, and reinforces who you are. It’s not supposed to feel easy. It’s supposed to make you tougher.

I’m not here to motivate soft men. I’m here to wake up savages. Post when you’ve earned it. Train because it’s who you are, not who you’re pretending to be. Don’t be another bloated oofy doofy chasing fake alpha points. Be disciplined. Be built. Be dangerous.

Jon Stone
Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ironresilience91
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iron.resilience
Website: https://ironresilience.net

Suffer to Rule: Train Like a Masochist, Dominate Like a Sadist

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Suffer to Rule: Train Like a Masochist, Dominate Like a Sadist

Some days I eat a lot. Six, seven thousand calories. High protein, high fat. No real hunger driving it—it’s just fuel. I train hard, I move all day. The food gets used.

Then I fast.

Not for a challenge. Not to impress anyone. I just don’t feel the need to eat. I’ve already eaten. My body has what it needs. The hunger isn’t there. So I don’t eat.

I walk. I train. I think.

Training is never about feeling good. I don’t chase motivation. I train like a masochist—not because I hate myself, but because I’m not afraid to suffer. I go into the pain and stay there until something gives way. Usually it’s my thoughts. Sometimes it’s my body. Either way, I keep going.

The goal isn’t to punish. It’s to gain control.

To dominate—not people, not situations—but reactions. Instinct. Emotion. That’s what I mean by “sadist.” Not cruelty. Just precision. Calm power. The ability to command yourself in uncomfortable situations and never flinch.

It’s not about ego. If it was, I’d quit when no one’s watching.

It’s about doing the work in silence. Walking until your feet ache. Training until your limbs shake. Fasting until the hunger disappears and the clarity comes in. That’s where the identity is—under the layers of comfort and softness.

This is how I function. Not as a strategy. Not for content.

Just how I live.

—Jon Stone
Iron Resilience

The Coward’s Path (and Why You’ll Never Respect Yourself on It)

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The Coward’s Path (and Why You’ll Never Respect Yourself on It)

by Jon Stone

Some men build.
Some men make excuses, steal your time, your energy, your money—and call it a lifestyle.

This isn’t a roast. This is a warning. If this sounds like you, it’s already too late unless you change everything starting now.

Let’s break down the parasite profile:

The Body Positivity Blob

They won’t lift a weight, go for a walk, or stop stuffing their face—but they’ll tell you they’re comfortable in their body. Comfortable being weak, slow, and soft. Always “injured,” always “tired,” always “starting next week.”

They look like a sack of dough but act like a professor of fitness and recovery.

The Financial Leech

Hand them your card to grab you a $20 item, and $80 is missing. “Oh bro, I thought I’d just renew my Spotify, DoorDash, and Netflix—hope that’s cool.”

They don’t invest—they mooch. They don’t earn—they drain.

The Subscription Slave

Apps. Toys. Shiny junk. Monthly payments for crap they don’t use and can’t afford. Free version available? They’ll still sign up for the “Pro” trial, forget to cancel, and spend rent money on anime skins and premium fart soundboards.

They’re broke by Tuesday but “manifesting abundance.”

The Bum Smoker Addict

Not crackheads—but damn close. Cigarettes and weed are life. Never have their own. Always bumming. “Hey man, lemme get a cig, just one puff, I’ll hit you back tomorrow.” They never do.

Addicted, broke, and proud of it.

The Starving Mooch

Spend their last $40 on a vape pen and an LED bong, then come crawling:
“Hey bro, you cooking? I haven’t eaten in days.”
No money for eggs, but unlimited funds for nonsense.

Parasites don’t starve—they guilt-trip others into feeding them.

The Permanent Child

Won’t work. Won’t commit. Won’t grow. “Full-time’s too stressful.” “I’m just focusing on my music right now.” “The 9-to-5 is slavery, man.”

Meanwhile, they live off government checks, side scams, and pity. They’re not rebels—they’re cowards in rebellion against responsibility.

The Prophet of Bullshit

Laziest man in the room, but loudest mouth. They’ve read two Reddit threads and now they’re an expert in politics, economics, religion, diet, philosophy, and quantum physics.

Zero muscle. Zero output. Zero discipline.
But somehow, they know everything.

Part 2: Johnny Fatndumb—A Masterclass in Self-Sabotage

Now let’s meet Johnny Fatndumb, the perfect example of someone who makes excuses for everything and never takes responsibility. Johnny is the Self-Sabotager. He’s everything you don’t want to be.

The Self-Sabotager: Johnny Fatndumb

Johnny is the guy who spends his entire existence avoiding growth and responsibility. He’s always the victim, always too tired, too busy, or too “injured” to do anything productive. His whole life is a pile of unfulfilled promises and excuses.

Here’s what Johnny looks like:

  • The Body Positivity Blob: Johnny refuses to get in shape and says, “I’m comfortable in my body.”
    Translation: He’s too lazy to lift, too weak to run, and too scared to face the discomfort of building a better body. Johnny would rather talk about body acceptance than put in the work to actually improve himself.
  • The Financial Leech: Give Johnny your bank card, and he’ll turn $20 into $80—gone into his endless Netflix subscription, food delivery, and his latest impulse buys that never make him any better.
    Johnny doesn’t earn. He drains. He’s a taker, not a giver.
  • The Subscription Slave: Johnny has 15 subscription services, from premium Snapchat to a gaming subscription he never uses.
    Every month, he drowns in debt while he’s too busy playing video games or watching movies he’ll never finish. You’ll find him buying “cool” gadgets, only for them to gather dust in the corner.
  • The Bum Smoker Addict: Weed and cigarettes are Johnny’s daily bread.
    Ask Johnny for a cig or a smoke, and you’ll get the same response: “Just one, bro. I’ll pay you back tomorrow.” But you won’t see that cigarette or joint come back. He’s addicted to comfort, but never committed to responsibility.
  • The Starving Mooch: Johnny spends his last cash on nonsense, but when it’s time to eat? That’s when he comes crawling, asking for food.
    “Man, can I get a bite? Haven’t eaten all day. Please, just this once.” Johnny is the kind of person who won’t spend money on food but will drop it on stuff he doesn’t need.
  • The Permanent Child: Johnny will tell you he’s not “cut out” for a 9-5. Too hard. Too “mainstream.” So, he stays on welfare, complains about society, and waits for the “perfect” opportunity that never comes.
  • The Prophet of Bullshit: Johnny knows everything. Politics, economics, philosophy—you name it. He’s an expert on all of it, yet his life is a dumpster fire.
    His opinions come from Reddit threads, not from any real experience or understanding. He loves the sound of his own voice but has nothing to show for it.

The Top Dog: A Man Who Gets Shit Done

Here’s the stark contrast: the Top Dog. The man who doesn’t waste his time or energy making excuses. He makes moves. He gets shit done. No excuses. Just results.

What the Top Dog Looks Like:

  • Disciplined and in Shape: The Top Dog gets in shape because he respects his body. He doesn’t care about being “comfortable.” He knows strength is earned, not gifted.
  • Handles His Business: He pays his own way and never takes from others. He invests in what matters—tools, education, experiences—not subscriptions and gadgets.
  • Smart Spending: He doesn’t waste money. Every purchase is intentional. He spends on what will elevate him—knowledge, fitness, opportunities.
  • No Addictions: The Top Dog controls his habits. He doesn’t need cigarettes, weed, or junk food. He is disciplined in everything.
  • Hard Work: The Top Dog isn’t afraid to grind. He works hard—whether it’s in a 9-to-5 or his own hustle. He builds. He doesn’t wait for handouts.
  • Informed and Focused: His opinions come from real life—experience and knowledge gained through discipline. He doesn’t talk for the sake of talking.

Final Thought:

Johnny Fatndumb is the embodiment of self-sabotage. If you want to end up like him—weak, broke, addicted, and full of excuses—then keep doing what you’re doing. But if you want respect, growth, and to truly build a life that’s yours, then stop making excuses and start doing the hard work.

The Top Dog doesn’t wait for motivation or pity. He gets up, grinds, and gets results. He doesn’t live off others. He builds his own empire.

Be the man who builds, not the one who waits for handouts.

That’s Iron Resilience.

Jon Stone
Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

IRON RESILIENCE LINKS

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ironresilience91
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iron.resilience
Website: https://ironresilience.net

8 Types of Guys You Never Want to Be (And How to Be the Top Dog Instead)

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8 Types of Guys You Never Want to Be (And How to Be the Top Dog Instead)

By Jon Stone, Founder of Iron Resilience

Let me tell you a story.

There was once a boy who could’ve been something. Smart enough. Strong enough. Charismatic even. But he chose weakness. He chose laziness. He chose gossip, excuses, Netflix, and porn. That boy never became a man. That boy got left behind.

Men like him are everywhere.

They have soft hands and softer minds. They cry about life, complain about women, and whine when life doesn’t hand them a medal for breathing.

If you want to win, if you want to be respected, if you want to be feared and admired, you need to be the OPPOSITE of these men.

Here’s how to spot the weak—and how to become the Top Dog they’ll never match.

1. The Constant Complainer

Who he is:

He’s tired. He’s sore. He’s misunderstood. Life’s hard. The government is unfair. His girlfriend dumped him. His boss is mean. The world owes him a hug and a paycheck.

Why he’s weak:

Complaining is the language of slaves. It’s a low vibration signal: “I am powerless.”

Top Dog Move:

Shut the hell up and solve it. Fix your problem or forget it. There are only two choices. Real men don’t vent—they conquer.

2. The Jealous, Envious, Insecure Man

Who he is:

He seethes when his buddy makes more money. When another man gets attention, he makes sarcastic comments. He’s always watching what you’re doing because he can’t face what he’s not doing.

Why he’s weak:

Jealousy is the emotion of the neutered. A man with direction doesn’t care who’s ahead—because he knows he’ll pass them.

Top Dog Move:

Admire greatness. Then outdo it. Let the success of others light a fire under your ass. Envy is for women. Drive is for men.

3. The Victim Mentality Guy

Who he is:

His life sucks and it’s everyone else’s fault. He blames his childhood, the economy, his ex, the system. He never takes accountability because he thinks the world is out to get him.

Why he’s weak:

No one respects a man who doesn’t own his outcomes. Weak men deflect. Strong men direct.

Top Dog Move:

Radical ownership. You built your hell? Then build your heaven. No apologies. No excuses. You are your own goddamn rescue team.

4. The Drama-Fueled Guy

Who he is:

He lives for fights, gossip, tension, and trash talk. His life is a soap opera. If he’s not in the middle of drama, he feels empty.

Why he’s weak:

Drama is a distraction from failure. It’s a drug. And it’s a coward’s way to feel important.

Top Dog Move:

Silence is strength. Focus is power. Drama is weakness in a shiny wrapper. Cut it out. Cut them off. Cut through.

5. The Shy, Quiet, Low-Self-Esteem Guy

Who he is:

He won’t speak up. Won’t take initiative. Won’t make eye contact. He’s always lurking in the background, praying not to be seen or judged.

Why he’s weak:

He’s invisible. And invisible men don’t get remembered, respected, or rewarded.

Top Dog Move:

You don’t become confident first. You act first. You speak when your voice shakes. You look people in the eye. Confidence is earned by confrontation.

6. The Stupid Guy

Who he is:

He’s got all the wrong ideas. Thinks pizza is protein. Thinks CNN is truth. Thinks being fat is genetic. Thinks Hollywood is real life. Thinks buying crap will fix his self-esteem.

Why he’s weak:

He doesn’t think. He just consumes. He doesn’t question. He just obeys.

Top Dog Move:

Wake the hell up. Learn. Lift. Fast. Read. Think. Speak. Act. Strength is mental before it’s physical. Train your brain like you train your body.

7. The Lazy or Unambitious Guy

Who he is:

He talks a big game but never gets off his ass. He’s “about to start” his business. He’s “about to join” the gym. He’s been “thinking about” changing for years.

Why he’s weak:

Motionless men rot. His ideas die with him. No effort. No execution. No edge.

Top Dog Move:

Action beats ambition. Show up tired. Show up scared. Show up anyway. Momentum makes men.

8. The Rule-Following Hard Worker

Who he is:

He does everything “right.” Works hard. Shows up on time. Stays in line. But he never wins. He follows the system—but the system wasn’t built for him to win.

Why he’s weak:

He’s obedient, not strategic. He trades time for pennies and calls it honor.

Top Dog Move:

Break the rules. Build your own system. Use leverage, not labor. The wolf doesn’t ask permission to hunt.

APPENDIX: The Bottom Barrel Bonus List

A. The Crazy Boyfriend / Guy with a Crazy Girlfriend

A man who tolerates chaos becomes chaos. If she’s screaming at you in public, cheating, or manipulating you, and you’re still there—you are not a man.

B. The Cuck

His woman wears the pants, flirts in public, and he grins and bears it. He’s neutered. His masculinity is a joke.

C. The Nice Guy

Thinks being soft equals being loved. He hides behind politeness. Tries to earn love by being agreeable. But no one respects a man who doesn’t respect himself.

D. The Impulse Spender in Debt

He’s always broke but always buying junk. He wants status but has no savings. He’s a clown in debt up to his neck.

E. The Welfare Leech

“Got a cigarette? Got weed? Got food? Loan me $20?” No ambition. Just excuses, mooching, and guilt trips.

Top Dog Move:

Walk away. You don’t save people who refuse to swim. You say no, you ignore, you ghost.

The Power of NO

“No” is a weapon.

Use it to cut dead weight. Say it without guilt. Say it without explanation. Not everyone gets access to you. Not everyone deserves to hear you. Not everyone deserves your help.

If they drain your energy, they don’t belong in your world. You’ve got a mission. And no one is allowed to slow that down.

Be the Top Dog. Not the rescue dog.

Written by Jon Stone, Founder of Iron Resilience
For men who don’t ask permission to dominate.
For men who lead, lift, build, and never apologize for being powerful.

Jon Stone

Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

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Discipline, Not Genetics

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Discipline, Not Genetics

Depression is what happens when you live in the past. Anxiety is what happens when you live in the future. And if you’re blindly optimistic—thinking everything will just “work out” without effort—you’re headed for disappointment. If you’re consumed by self-doubt and pessimism, you’re building your own cage. You’ll fail before you even try.

So how do you stay grounded?

You don’t rely on motivation. You don’t rely on rewards. You don’t wait for applause or permission. You rely on discipline.

Discipline is doing what needs to be done whether you feel like it or not. Whether you’re tired, angry, sad, or ashamed. Whether you’re on a high or stuck in the dirt.

You want something? Good. Then be willing to go through hell to get it. That’s the difference between men who get what they want in life and men who live with regret.

It doesn’t matter how many mistakes you’ve made. You could be wasting time on porn, weed, video games, or worse. None of that disqualifies you—if you stop now and commit to something real.

If you lock onto a purpose, if you wake up every day and move toward it without surrendering—you’ll beat 99% of people who are still waiting for motivation or hoping for handouts.

The world doesn’t give a damn about your feelings. It respects results.
And you don’t get results without pain, sacrifice, and tunnel vision.

Discipline is the cure. Purpose is the fuel. Belief is the weapon.

Jon Stone
Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

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The World Is Full of Fakes — Be the One Who’s Real

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The World Is Full of Fakes — Be the One Who’s Real

Most people aren’t chasing success.
They’re chasing the appearance of success.

Steroids to hide lazy training.
Stimulants to mask garbage diets.
AI, filters, angles, and edits—crafted illusions.

They don’t want to be disciplined.
They just want to look shredded for 15 seconds on Instagram.

They buy followers.
They fake comments.
They flex a rented car and call it a lifestyle.

But you know what can’t be faked?
Work.

You can’t filter discipline.
You can’t buy real strength.
You can’t download resilience.
You build it. Alone. Reps. Sweat. Silence.

Everyone wants abs in 30 days.
But they don’t want 30 days of hunger, soreness, and early mornings.

They want hacks. Shortcuts. “Coaching” from guys who’ve never suffered.

Let Them Cheat. Let Them Lie. Let Them Post.

They’re chasing dopamine. You’re chasing legacy.

They’ll burn out in months.
You’ll still be building in ten years.

Because you didn’t cheat the process.
You became the process.

The disciplined man doesn’t just win.
He becomes the reason others can’t.

Jon Stone
Founder, ironresilience.net
Discipline, Not Genetics

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