A truly self actualized, and successful man worth admiring will always be known for his independence, his freedom, and his unshakeable confidence in himself. This ability of emotional control, self reliance, and self mastery came from years of focus upon personal transformation along with numerous personal experiences of overcoming the adversity of individual suffering. As a result, they are natural leaders, and naturally dominate. They never take orders, when they give orders they are followed, and when someone tries to force them to play a rigged game they either walk, or beat the other side at their own rigged game. These leadership positions are never sought out, but they are a natural benefit of being a real man. The good, the bad, and the ugly opinions of people about them never mattered, because external validation was never the goal.
Here are seven of the best habits to form early on to evolve into this type of man, the toxic and ultra masculine motherfucker who men envy, and drives women mad:
- Cultivate Indifference: become indifferent, and stoic to praise, or insults. A truly great man would never base his happiness, nor self worth on the validation, support, or approval of others. Especially strangers online, or women offline.
- Silence: you’ll never get in shit for saying too little. You will for saying too much. Talking isn’t doing. Someone who talks big, but never does is always seen as a bullshitter. Keep your plans to yourself, move in silence, and let the results speak for themselves. Cultivate a calm, inner power that emanates confidence without needing to boast or draw attention.
- Pursue Self-Excellence: you should always pursue the goal of self mastery, and self excellence via trials, ordeals, applied study, and identifying your weak points mentally, physically, and spiritually. Don’t cry about being weak in an area, below average in an area, and so forth. Work on it 3x a week with focused relentless intensity.
- Train Hard & Eat Clean: needs no explanation. Everyone respects a powerful physique.
- Always Be Prepared: in the military, we had a saying: pack light and be cold at night. Sometimes you can just freestyle shit. But everybody needs a plan, and goals. And you have to be prepared to be flexible, but strict. They say planning for failure is planning to fail, but the opposite must be true in that case. Planning for success, is planning to succeed. Plans need to be put into actual action with measurable incremental however small results. And along that way be prepared. You can freestyle it without a plan, but if you aren’t prepared to carry it out or adapt to situations as they pop up then you’re fucked.
- Keep A Journal: ideally you want to keep track of your successes, and failures in all areas of life. To see what works, and what doesn’t work. And to be able to understand your own mental, and emotional state better as well. Keep a log of your progress, and notes on the subjects you are studying. Write about your experiences. And this is the one safe space where you can vent, rant, complain, and let it all out. Nobody besides you sees this journal.
- Experience Life: have many diverse, willed and controlled experiences. This is where genuine self learning starts. Spend two to six years of your life gaining as much experience in it as possible. Travel, read, workout, study, and most of all DO. Push your boundaries, explore your passions, and master your own mind.
In summary, toxic masculinity is to thrive on independence, emotional discipline, and mental resilience. To prioritize personal development, isolation when needed, and strategic action, often influencing others without seeking attention or authority.
You’ll be envied…admired…and most of all: your own man.
