Why People Give Me Advice at the Gym—Even When I’m 205 lbs with Abs

By Jon Stone | Iron Resilience

You ever notice how the most out-of-shape guys are the first to dish out training and diet advice?

You’re mid-set, headphones in, sweat dripping, muscles pumped. You’re 205 pounds with abs. Disciplined. Dialed in. Focused. And here comes some guy with a soft belly and soft mind telling you what he thinks you should be doing.

Why does this happen?

Because discipline exposes weakness.

Most people don’t want to get better—they want to feel better about not getting better. When they see someone like you—no shortcuts, no excuses, no fads—your results remind them of what they’ve been avoiding: pain, effort, structure, consistency.

So they project.
They advise.
They critique.
They poke holes in your routine, your diet, your methods—not because they want to help, but because they need to protect their ego.

It’s not about you.
It’s about them.

You’re a walking contradiction to their excuses.

You didn’t crash diet or hop on some influencer’s plan. You carved it out over years. You eat steak and eggs while they chase macro-balanced smoothies. You train like a masochist while they scroll through mobility reels. You walk 26,000 steps a day and lift like it matters. You live it.

And that terrifies people who only talk about it.

When you walk into a gym with purpose, the room shifts. People notice. Not just the results—but the energy. The no-bullshit presence. The eyes that say: I came here to suffer. That level of intensity reveals the frauds. It makes them uncomfortable.

So they try to shrink you back down.
With words.
With “tips.”
With passive-aggressive comments.

Let them.

You’re not here to be liked.
You’re here to be forged.

This is Iron Resilience.
Not plastic approval.
Not rubber-band advice.
Iron. Unbending. Unshaken.

And when someone smaller, softer, or lazier comes up to give you “advice,” just remember:
You’ve already won.
They just haven’t figured it out yet.